In today’s episode we're talking about holding space for not knowing. Why are we- culturally- people who think we need to know things? There is an underlying assumption that we can know definitive capital T truths- and we want bedrock answers. We want to avoid the feeling of groundlessness that comes with not definitively knowing things. The trouble with that is that we look outside of ourselves for prescriptions of how to live, and we create a society where the stronger your opinion the more right you must be. We wind up without space for sourcing our own answers, or for differing viewpoints, or for the experience of evolving understandings that can shift over time and be alive in their unfolding... so let’s delight in some groundlessness today!

In this episode we’re responding to a dear Bliss + Grit inquiry on one of our favorite topics- boundaries! How do you know what’s truly right for you? What happens when you say yes only to later feel tired and grumpy? Your ability to stay true to your inner yes and no is the most basic affirmation of your right to exist as you are, yet so many of us are challenged in this arena. With all our cultural conditioning around earning love and being of service you can imagine this conversation is full of stories and tools we’ve collected along the way.

We’ve had a good number of episodes lately that are about the more challenging emotions- things like grief and despair, or heartbreak. We’ve really dug into how to feel all the feels, especially those ones we like to avoid in our culture. A funny thing though, for all of our happiness chasing, we’re actually not exactly whizzes at pointing the compass towards ease or true pleasure. The same striving that keeps us chasing happiness keeps us from actually resting into the more delicious and delightful parts of being human. So lest you think we’re glorifying suffering- in today’s episode we're talking about navigating towards some more of the yummy that life has to offer.